Being strong does not always have to represent physical strength. It does not always have to follow the intimidating routines of physical force, shapes, and sizes. Therefore, having a disability is not a validation of being weak emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, strength symbolizes a more subtle sign that can happen internally. Meaning, anyone can be the smallest individual but still has the power to get over the effects of every bad day. And since a lot of people often underestimate the mindset of a person with a disability, they can’t see how fortunate the individual is. That is the reason why psychologists believe that a person with a physical disability happens to be mentally stronger than those who are not.
Allowing One’s Self to Cry
One of the particular methods of strengthening mental health is through letting out the emotions. With that, allowing one’s self to cry helps in the regulation of feelings and thoughts. That is the reason why Psychologists believe that it helps a person feel relaxed as it relieves tension. Since a person with a disability is prone to mistreatment, judgment, insults, doubt, and humiliation, there is a huge tendency that he knows what level of understanding appears needed daily. For a disabled person, crying is not a sign of weakness. Instead, it symbolizes mental strength because there is no bottled up of emotions that hold the individual captive. “Contrary to the beliefs of some, crying is an important component of mental health and wellness. The benefits of crying are often unrecognized, overlooked and under- appreciated, as it can be good for us both psychologically and physiologically.” Karen Doll, Psy.D., L.P explains.
No Control Over Everything
A disabled individual may sometime feel confident even though they are in an unfortunate situation. However, the person also knows that he is incapable of controlling everything due to his physical impairment. Meaning, it is never an issue when things don’t go his ways. There is no reason to emphasize hustling as well as exceeding expectations. “Research shows that how you think about yourself can have a powerful effect on how you feel. Practice using words that promote feelings of self-worth and personal power. Give yourself a positive pep-talk.” Dr. Aaron Kaplan, PsyD, Clinical Psychologist said. And since the individual understands the limits of his capabilities, he does not tend to overload himself with tons of tasks. There is no reason for the person to continually burn and latch himself out to validate his abilities to reach the goal.
The Practice Of Gratitude
A disabled individual often feels that the world is unfair. There is this temptation of complaining about everything. But what makes that individual different from the rest of the people in the world who are not physically impaired is his constant practice of gratitude. That no matter how unfortunate his situations are, that person always tries to find something that he can be thankful for in his life. There is this sense of achievement on how far he had become even though he is a disabled individual. Yes, he might not be able to move out from his comfort zone instantly, but he finds it okay.
The Choice Of Kindness
A disabled person who practices kindness often is mentally stronger than other individuals. That is because he understands and knows the use of sympathy, empathy, and compassion, even when everything seems so wrong. There is also a willingness to throw away a self-absorbed behavior to focus only on becoming a positive impact to others despite the physical condition. A person with a disability believes that he does not owe anyone anything. Therefore, the center of becoming a better individual is a top priority. There is this significant point of view that puts the disabled person in a state where giving is more valuable than receiving. Jennifer L. Taitz, PsyD once said, “I’m pretty blown away by the idea of Loving-Kindness Meditation. Meaning, instead of drowning in sadness, purposefully spending a few minutes wishing people well (from you to a mentor to a stranger to a person you know struggling) can actually lead to productive actions and increase your joy.”
Not Leaning On Codependency
The process of codependency occurs when an individual does not have a strong sense of self-reliance. Usually, the target of this damaging mentality is those people who often rely on validation. But what gives a person with disability an edge is the practice of self-sufficiency. It is the way of finding happiness from within. It means learning to fight the battles alone without expecting help from other people. There is a sense of allowing individuals to share support and not aim for rescue. It is a practice that not only strengthens mental health but also solidifies the relationship with others as well.
Not because an individual with a disability is incapable of doing things on regular cases, it does not mean he won’t make it. Sometimes, a slow and steady process is all that matters in achieving success. The adversities, rejections, failures, will become the foundation of emotional and mental strength. And since a disabled person already understands his limitations, he can practice realistic and functioning optimism. Therefore, there is no unproportioned goal because there is a focus on what is currently in front of that person. The ability to channels the effort into areas of self-improvement is what gives a person with a disability an edge among others.